What lies behind a broken heart and how to overcome this pain
Have you broken up a long-term relationship, divorced, or broken off a friendship that you were convinced was unbreakable?
Maybe a close family member has died or you are facing the loss of a pet that has been beautifying your life for years?
We all live in a modern world today, some would say superficial, whose pace requires presence and great effort to survive at all.
In this “madness”, many forget the emotional side of their existence or ignore and suppress their feelings so as not to hinder them in achieving personal goals.
There are indeed many ways in which our soul finds ways to overcome the pain and suffering of a loved one, but how can we rationally explain the irrational pain and feeling of emptiness that overwhelms us in such situations?
Is it just an irrational phenomenon?
Scientists claim that our brain registers emotional pain in the same way as physical pain, which explains the frequent manifestation of that pain in our body. Everyone knows the phrases “I feel like my heart is pounding” or “he pierced my heart” and with them, people vividly describe their physical feeling about their emotional state.
It is certain, however, that a “broken heart” causes a great deal of stress, especially if the loss was sudden, and that the time it takes to repair it can vary by weeks, months, or even years.
Is love pure chemistry?
When we think of these essentially intercellular messengers, our first association is adolescents and the famous puberty. Of course, there are various hormones and their functions, including those that affect falling in love.
They say that love creates addiction like a drug, and our brain “deals” with hormones such as dopamine (hormone of happiness) or oxytocin (the love hormone) that make us feel happy and satisfied, wanting to repeat the behavior that led to such emotions.
On the other hand, when the emotional connection is broken, when our heart “breaks”, these “happy” hormones reduce their production and instead secrete cortisol (stress hormone).
Its primary function is to raise the combat readiness of our organism, but in excessive quantities and long-term presence can lead us to a counter-effect, ie to the appearance of all negative manifestations of our psycho-physical condition.
What does medicine say?
Stress is the cause of most diseases in our bodies.
Some theories say that stress is the main cause of cancer, which is increasingly eating our society. Acute emotional stress, whether positive or negative, often leads to reactions in our bodies. Experts say the left ventricle may fall into a paralysis-like condition, causing heart attack-like symptoms.
Often, side effects can include chest, shoulder, and arm pain, shortness of breath, and loss of consciousness, and dizziness.
People in these situations have a feeling of a real heart attack, but it is important to know that this condition leaves no lasting physical consequences like a real heart attack.
The best way to help yourself with a “broken heart”
First of all, all the advice goes in the direction, to enable us to feel and experience that difficult feeling of pain and suffering.
Although the almost reflex reaction will be extreme, be it “chain release” or withdrawal and introspection, it is helpful to keep in mind that all of this is okay and human.
Surround yourself with positive and smiling people who will support you in a difficult personal period. Вintroduce more healthy habits, get rid of stress and all the weights that press on you, and then the feeling of accepting reality will slowly take over your soul and mind.
Of course, not wanting to reduce someone’s suffering, because we all know that it is individual and immortal, sometimes a person simply feels a huge lack of strength to deal with the situation.
When “darkness” takes over our thoughts, tragic and, above all, wrong decisions occur, without the person having endured before and persistently looking for a way to help himself.
In these situations, it is quite normal and advisable to seek professional help, and this is, unfortunately, a topic that is still not given enough attention in emotionally conservative environments like our country.
Modern times in luggage bring modern stresses and problems that require a modern approach to solving them.
Communication is always the key and if you do not trust or have a loved one with whom you can “unlock” your conversation, do not feel less valuable or weak.
Honesty is a force that can drain the vast energy that can overcome even a “broken heart.”
